Innovative Collaring Ceremonies

Collaring ceremony is an important day for every Masters and slaves. It can be done as simple or as dramatic as possible. There is no set way of conducting the ceremony; one can be as creative and innovative as possible. If you are planning to have one, this blog will be useful for you.

A collaring ceremony can be done in public or even have it done in private. There are couples you mix principles of wedding and collaring, like adding collaring ritual at the end of the wedding. This makes wedding vows more serious and dramatic. You can arrange a dominant friend to bring the bride or slave crawl down the aisle holding the leash and present her to the Master. This is another way of mixing wedding rituals with a collaring ceremony. Some have an old Episcopal wedding rite as a template where the Master/ Groom and Slave/ bride wearing leather outfits in a leather club/ conference. The wedding cum collaring can be conducted by a dominant friend who is licensed to sign marriage license officiate.

One can also have a simple romantic ceremony in a good peaceful location in front of friends, families and well wishers. Without much rituals or dramatic scenes, just reading the oath, and getting collared by the Master’s hand which is followed by a good photo session and reception. If the guy is collared, then his Mistress can choose a wedding dress for him and suite for herself. If not wedding dress, he can wear a kilt. No need to overly complicate unless the relationship is based on spiritual foundations.

Some of the most romantic collaring ritual in collaring ceremony is the wine and rose ritual. Where a glass of red wine is offered to the Master and a glass of white wine is given to the slave. Both the master and slave pour their glass of wine in to another single glass and mix it joining the two as one. They can each sip from the mix. Again red rose for the Master and white rose for the slave. Prick the slave’s finger with white rose thorn and drip blood on the red rose as a sign of commitment.

Some add BDSM aspects into the collaring ceremony. Some masochists conduct the ceremony where the sub is tied up or suspended during the ceremony or any part of it. At the end of the oath taking and collaring ritual, some masters tie the slave to a pillar and give her, her first flogging in public. Some even add slave tattooing or slave branding as a part of the ceremony which will be an added ritual.

One can even conduct a cock worship ritual followed by the collaring ceremony, if both the Master and Slave are positive about being naked in public at least in front of their selected friends and families. Some even have black sheet parties after the collaring ceremony in some other place or at their house at night where the slave is offered to various other dominants. The guests of the previous ceremony are invited to watch or participate.

Flogging- Do the right way

If BDSM session is an egg, flogging is its yoke. On an average more than half of the time spend in most BDSM sessions, is spend on flogging. Sex is not a part of traditional sessions, but today most people like to mix sex into the session usually at the end or in between. Some use sex as after care. In a session with or without sex, flogging plays an important role. For a beginner in flogging, at first the submissive feels he/ she can take the pain. They might be surprised by the amount of pain even in the first few flogs. An inexperienced dom/ master might also feels the same, as if he can handle the flogging. In most cases they both find it’s not as easy as they imagined. It takes dedication and experience to master any craft, same in the case of flogging. Flogging is an art. There are many ways to do it, but do the right way.

Safety of the slave or sub is the greatest responsibility of any Master or Dom. The ideal area to flog is the upper back on each sides of the spine. Be careful don’t flog on the spine, especially if the slave is skinnier. It’ll be easier if the slave is on a standing position facing a wall, with both legs stretch aside. If practiced, you can flog perfectly on the upper back without touching the spine. The ideal way to start the flogging is slow and light in the beginning and fast and harder by the end. I personally use a mental timing and normally flog in rhythm (1-2,3-1). 2 and 3 are the break I take in between each flog. When the ecstasy for pain reaches the pinnacle, the speed of flogging increases, the timing changes to (1-1-1-1..) without taking a halt in between. If you have a slow timing there will be high possibility to have wrapping. Its when the tip of the flog wraps around the body. The master should have a mental estimate where the tail is going to hit. Most of the time while flogging it'll end up in wrapping. Even the very best Doms or Masters will wrap once in a while. Wrapping can be done intentionally, if the slave can take an extra pain. The master just has to flog in a slow timing. If those who dislike the sting of wrapping, Usually the best way for the giver to achieve landing more of the flogger on the skin is to stand a little more off to either side of the receiver. That way they can land closer to like maybe half or so of the tails on the flogger on the subs skin with each blow.

when only just the tips of any flogger hits the skin anywhere it lands creates much more of a sharp sting. Which if that's what is intended from the giver that's fine. But while most of the masochists enjoy more 'thuddy' types of blows rather than just always stingy. In order to achieve a more thuddy type of feeling & a deeper impact the giver must use more than just the tips of the flogger.

The other suitable area for flogging is the butt. If the sub is skinny try to avoid this area. As the area of flogging is very small and the possibility to wrap on hips, thigh and other sensitive parts are high. If the sub is fleshy, this is a great place to flog. I personally enjoy flogging BBW’s over size zero. One thing to be careful while flogging on the butt is never ever flog on the tip of the spine (tailbone). Flogging the thigh can be done with extra care because of wrapping. It will cause an undesirable pain; do only if the sub is mature enough to take the pain. Breast is another sensitive area where flogging should be done carefully. If regularly flogged on the breast, in future they might be chances of having medical problems.

You can be creative in giving different varieties of pain. As mentioned earlier, start giving slow and light flogging in the beginning. If you have different types of flogger, use the small and lighter one in the beginning and heavier one by the end. Use different pace and sometimes just use only the tip of the flogger. Give regular intervals for the sub to take breath and relax her muscles. You can finger or use vibrators in these small breaks. The master will get exhausted if he uses heavy flogger for a long time, as he might twist his wrist regularly, so keep the heavy ones for the end or keep switching the flogger.

Areas highly avoided for flogging: kidney area for male and female subs, on the neck area, spines, on all joints of legs and arms, on testicles for males, clit area for female (once a while is fun), never flog on head. Before every session, the master should give his slave a “Safe Word” so that she can stop the session any time she wishes. When the slave otters the safe word, the master should stop the session then and there. Actually for any beginner it is much better to always start on only the butt rather than the back. Regardless if the person is skinny or larger due to just being safer. Especially for a beginner it is just way too easy for them to accidentally miss their intended marks & end up hitting the spines as well as the necks too. Honestly if they miss when aiming for the ass there is very little harm that could ever be caused as bad as the spine or neck areas like from flogging on the back.

Have a great flogging session,Masters dont forget to ask a feedback of the session, dont ask just after the session as the receiver will be still in sub space, ask her the next day about the whole session. Try to accept constructive criticism in order to master your trade. remember a master should always be sensitive towards his slave/ sub. There must be after care after each session. Check the blog I wrote about “After Care” to know more about it.

Punishments

Punishments are an essential part of D/S relationship. It brings discipline to your slave’s behavior. Here are some creative ways to punish or train your slave.

Deny slaves to have sex with humans, instead let her have sex with inanimate objects. Any objects like brush, bottle etc. allow the slave to only rub pillows, teddy bears, master’s cloths, corner of chairs, tables, bed post etc. make the slave realize that she is a worthless piece of furniture and she has to earn to have sex with the master. While having sex with the objects, she has to talk to them dirty.

For pain sluts using punishments like spanking and flogging are not appropriate, as they crave for pain. Hence they can be punished by denying pain. They can be ordered to stand in a corner facing the wall without saying a word till the master wish. This punishment can be made more interesting if the slave have to balance two coin pressed to the wall with her nipples or a ping pong ball balanced to her forehead. If the slave loses her balance, then she has to face severe punishments.

While training slaves some still won’t be trained enough to talk disciplined, for such bragging slaves, there are many punishments to keep their mouth shut. Some punishments are to make her talk backwards. If still not ready to keep her mouth shut, some masters hold a bar of soap into her mouth to remind her, to watch her tongue. Duck taping the mouth for whole day, or putting clothespins on the lips or tongue of the slave and making the slave brush her teeth with soap are other techniques.

Some slaves have addictions to some favorite TV shows or movies, which they never want to miss. This is common among ladies as most of them are addicted to soap operas and TV series. There are punishments to discipline them from their addiction. Right before their favorite TV program starts, make the slave kneel between the master’s legs. Keep the master’s soft cock inside her mouth, she is not allowed to suck it. this is a humiliating task as the master consider her nothing more than a living underwear or soaks. If by any way the master’s cock gets hard because of her, she’ll be punished by hard spanking. The whole time her favorite show is running in the TV, she can only hear the sound but cannot see it. The master will watch the show eating popcorn or snacks while keeping his soft cock in her mouth. To make the punishment more severe, take the task to the next level. Switch off the movie or TV show and play a porno instead. And the slave will be rewarded by hard flogging or spanking for each time the cock gets hard.

Other similar punishments are keeping the master’s cum insider the slave’s mouth and she has to keep it till the master give permission to swallow it. These punishments mostly suites to the kind of slaves who don’t like the taste of master’s cum or any cum for that matters.

Grounding the slave from things she enjoy doing is another punishment tactics to discipline the slave. Sending the slave early to bed without allowing her to use TV, computer or toys is a frustrating punishment.

Make the slave stand naked against the opened bedroom window with two heavy books on both outstretched arms, the slave have to stand like that for minimum ten minutes, if the arms are lowered by an inch, the punishment starts from the beginning for another ten minutes.

humiliation Fetish

Humiliations are part of the training to break the will of the slave. It is as difficult as breaking a wild horse. Humiliating is not as easy as one think. Most slaves crave to be humiliated in private or in public. Its gives them an unexplained rush and hunger to be treated like a worthless piece of shit. Humiliations include private as well as public, verbal as well as action. Telling in public to shut the fuck up and sit down is a disrespectful statement and can hurt the receiver’s ego. Grabbing a fist full of hair and yanking the sub to be on her knee or snapping of fingers and pointing to the ground without saying a word. Walking around in public on her knees with collar and chain on is humiliating if the sub is new to the lifestyle.

Early morning humiliation ritual of spitting the tooth paste foam into the slave’s mouth. Using her human wash basin is humiliating or using the slave as human furniture or human ashtray in front of the master’s guests are other creative way of public humiliation. Make the slave behave like a pet dog. Make her eat from the dog’s bowl, make the slave toilet outside in public, take her for a walk with collar and leash on her neck. Play with her like throwing ball and fetching it for the master. Make her sleep in a cage. Tie the leash around a pole or chair make her sit there for long hours and let her sleep under the master’s feet.

Humiliations can be done in public to make the fetish more meaningful. Displaying slaves at Community meetings and parties gives very good opportunity for humiliation loving slaves. One can bring their slaves for such parties naked with just a collar and high heels on. Master can write humiliating words like “nasty cunt, cum here, dog cock lover, pain pig, etc” all over her body to display. This will be an open invitation to be used by strangers in public. Tying the slave to a pole and making her open for any sexual usage. Make the slave walk in busy street or shopping malls wearing very short micro mini skirt and make her bent over to give strangers a view of her tampon tread out from her pussy is humiliating. Make the sub read out loud self insulting excerpt in public.

Make the slave go to the beach or pool in small swim suite or a female bikini bottoms that showed the bruises from being spanked. There are many ways to fulfill this fetish if you are creative.

Daily Rituals

There are creative rituals which can be added to your day to day master-slave life as well as extensive rituals which is conducted once or twice a year on a particular special day. Rituals help to strengthen and reinforce the seriousness of collaring or being a slave. It reduces the “Taken for granted syndrome”. Daily rituals can be performed any time of the day, early morning, before taking bath, before dressing, during breakfast or before bed.

Some rituals are done daily like, every morning when the slave gets ups she kneels down and kiss the feet of her master, or the first thing the master hears when he wakeup is a verbal declaration like, “I worship you master, I kneel down to you today, tomorrow and forever, I’m here to serve you”. Or at night the slave kneels besides the bed for the permission of the master to let her join him. If the master is out of station, the slave should still follow the protocol; she should call her master on phone and ask the permission to sleep on the bed. Some masters who are keen on the body worship, uses written prayer and Slave rosary. Waking the master with the slave’s mouth on his cock is a very common daily ritual followed by an early morning ritualistic prayer.

When the master is back after a short or long break, on the first meeting after having been apart, the slave can do a visual ritual. The slave can put her hand on the master’s belt and the other on her collar. This ritual acknowledges his control and ownership respectively. The slave is then taken to the bedroom for body inspection and over the knee spanking. When the slave is allowed to have an orgasm or allowed to give orgasm she should immediately thank her master afterwards.

If the slave does not live with her master and when he comes to her place, she can welcome her master by the verbal declaration “Welcome to your home Master”, when he steps through the door. Whenever the master comes home, the slave has to remove her master’s boots.

Rituals in private and public include slave sitting at the feet of the master while watching TV, or while waiting for the flight in airport, or even waiting in line at the movies. First this might be difficult to follow, but later after regular training the slave prefer sitting on the floor than on the chair or couch.

Some Masters Makes rules like the slaves are allowed to sit at Master’s right side, if standing; she should be at the right side. If a slave wants to walk and cross her master, she should cross from his behind, not from front crossing her master’s path.

Petitions before collaring

Traditionally a petition is submitted by the sub/ slave prior to collaring, especially during the training period. Usually there are 2 stages before collaring. – 1 training period, 2 consideration period and finally 3 Collaring. At the end of each stage the master gives a ring as a reward of completing the stage. During the time of training and consideration period the dominant is addressed as ‘sir’ not master. The title master is only called after the slave is collared. Only after that the sir becomes the master and lord of their life. Slave mentions in the petition why he/ she want to be a personal slave and serve the master. The slave can mention his/ her views on this decision or desire to submit elaborately. They can also mention what are their feelings for the master right now. It is a request form to be submitted to the master and if the master accepts the petition. There should be at least 6 months gap for collaring ceremony. This is a time of training; the master will train the slave thru various tests and daily routine activities, etiquettes, talking style and so on. During this period as the slave matures in their strict trainings, the master will give the collaring contract. It might be elaborate or brief depending on master’s will. A petition helps the submissive to organize their thoughts and feelings. Some people are not good in expressing their ideas and feelings, but they might be extremely good in writing down the same.

The difference between a submissive and a slave is, a slave don’t have any property or possession as her own. Slaves are master’s private possession or property. A slave is lower than any other people, just above animals hence every male should be addressed ‘sir’ and female as ‘madam’. if in a BDSM functions or party where other dominants are present the slave must address the dominants as for example “master john” and his/her real master as “my master” or “my lord”.

Some masters give a format of outlined question which the slave has to answer

Some petitions are not written, some are oral begging and pleading for consideration.

Some slaves and masters follow the 3 petition format. The slave gives his/ her 1st petition of consideration, and then during the period of training they submit another petition of “consideration of service’ and finally the petition for collaring. The last is a formal written petition of ownership. Each of the positions is earned over time. These are old fashioned and traditional protocol followed by some in lifestyle. In today’s fast moving life following this protocol is not practical for many involved in the lifestyle.

A collar is not something that is given to the slave thoughtlessly, or brought from a leather store as a fashion outfit. A collar is a degree earned by a slave through hard work and discipline. A person decides or makes the life changing decision to volunteer to become slave when he/ she completely and selflessly love their master. It is a state of mind when nothing is more important than his/her master’s happiness. Hence collaring is the ultimate stage of showing the complete loyalty and love.

After care

After care is essential and should not be taken lightly. Always do it like a ritual.
After care is mutual, it should not be given to bottom/ slave alone, after care is given to top/ master as well. First 5-10 minutes after completing the scene is very critical as the sub/slave will be still in sub space. Here are some of the ways a master can bring his slave out of sub space.

Cover your sub with a warm blanket, offer a bottle of water, and wipe her face because she will be sweating and catching her breath. Have a prolonged embrace for at least one full breath. Cuddle and stroke her with love.

Don’t forget to say encouraging or words of praise like, “I’m proud of you, see how well you handled that, good girl, you pleased me greatly”. Never say ‘Are you alright? Because it gives a wrong impression that something terrible happened and that impression will pitch in her mind forever.

Be around her all the time till she comes out of the sub space. Some submissive/slaves like bunny or teddy bear to cuddle, provide that, it works. Walk her to the washroom to fresh up, be her side.

Make sure she eats a lot of red meat as the red meats have proteins to recover. Give her something sweet like candy or chocolate. It is a very easy way to bring her back from sub space. Sometimes after a session the slave will feel hungry, ask her if she is if so let her have some food.

Play some soft music, fragrance candles and most people say a good passionate sex is the best after care.